I Don’t Want That Much

If you ever see me at a McDonald’s drive thru, you’ll know times are desperate.

Times were desperate.

I needed coffee.

In my caffeinated hierarchy, McDonald’s iced coffee is slightly above gas station coffee. (PSA: Gas station coffee should only be consumed in extreme circumstances. Barring scenarios requiring an Emergency Room or a Law Enforcement Officer, you owe it to your taste buds to find an alternative. The more you know.) Truthfully I wasn’t quite in crisis mode, though I was in rushed-out-the-door-with-a-crying-baby mode. I thought I could make an exception.

I ordered the smallest sized iced hazelnut coffee. To my surprise, such a caffeinated boost can be gotten for a mere dollar.

Pulling up to the window, a Britney Spears mic offered me a whopping, mega-sized vat of iced coffee. (There probably was an employee attached to the Britney Spears mic, but I couldn’t tell.)

“O, I’m so sorry. I ordered a small size.”

“Don’t worry,” said Britney mic, “they’re all the same price.”

“But I don’t want that much.”

“You don’t have to pay any extra. It’s still a dollar.”

“I get that, but I don’t want to drink that much coffee. Could I just get a smaller size?”

“If one oversteps the bounds of moderation, the greatest pleasures cease to please.” Epictetus


Set Your Minds

I’ve been journaling through the book of Colossians in my personal Bible study. (To learn how I use Journibles for studying the Bible, see this post I wrote for my church’s blog.) I wanted to share a few thoughts from this passage I’ve memorized.

If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. When Christ who is your life appears, then you also will appear with him in glory.” Colossians 3:1-4


What does it mean to set our minds on things that are above?


When the baby doesn’t sleep, when the dishes tumble over, when the dog won’t stop barking, when the kid is crying, when the husband works late, when the milk spills, when the school pickup line is delayed, when the kid is sick, when you can’t hold your eyes open for one second longer, when the ends don’t meet, when the dreaded phone call rings, when the job is lost, when the loved one dies, when you’re weak, when you’re weary, when you’re worn - set your mind on Christ.

Friends, the Gospel is our eternal circumstance, our forever situation, our only hope, our everlasting joy.

Our Father is “over all and through all and in all.” (Ephesians 4:6)

Live in the reality of what Christ has done for you.

“And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful.” (Colossians 3:15)

And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.” (Colossians 3:17)

Today, set your minds on things above. 

I’m A Mom (But I’m Really Trying)

Since becoming a stay at home mom (sorta) I’ve found myself taking part in lots of stay at home mom activities. Carson joined the summer reading program (I know, I know). I’ve been crafting and doing some household projects. We’ve been on playdates. And I joined a mom’s group.

Just soaking it up.

But about the mom’s group. These mamas have been so welcoming to me! I’m the youngest, and newest, mom there but it’s so fun to learn from the experiences of others.

At one of our groups, one member beautifully captured a funny quirk of motherhood. I call it “parenthetical mothering.”

Parenthetical mothering, adj. – 1) the need moms have to explain away their decisions for fear of being judged. 2) completely unnecessary. We had pizza for dinner last night (but every other night this week the children ate kale chips and wheat grass). 

Think about it. We moms truly do feel the need to excuse the shots that we call. Have you ever heard of a Dad apologetically explaining his decisions? I haven’t. Dads are more likely to say something along these lines, “We went out for ice cream. The kids made a mess and ate so much they got sick. It was awesome. We had a great time.”

What are we moms so afraid of?

If I had to guess, I’d say judgement.

Judgement from other moms and, let’s face it, judgement from ourselves for not living up to our own standards.

Julia Childs Quote

Moms, this is just ridiculous (and I know you probably already know that but bear with me). Parenting is difficult. It’s crazy difficult. And the parenting options are endless. Breast or bottle feed? Cry it out or pick ‘em up? Co-sleep or crib? To vaccinate or not to vaccinate? To spank or not to spank? Homeschool or public school or X-Men School for Gifted Youngsters? See my point?

In my whopping 6 months of experience, I humbly suggest we make decisions and stick to our guns.

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Putting a Face to Re’and (Book Cover Reveal!)

I squealed when I opened my inbox.

An email from Heather Dent Studio was waiting.

A mock up of the book cover for Re’and was attached.

I’m in love.

(Aren’t you!?)

Reand Cover

Heather Dent’s Illustrations

Heather and I attended college together and we’ve reconnected post-graduation over writing and motherhood. She’s also a writer and, as you can tell, a brilliant illustrator. I invite you to check out her portfolio! I’m a fan of her minimalist style and am thrilled that Re’and will feature her work. If you have any illustration projects, I can’t recommend Heather highly enough. Learn more about her services here.

When You’re Afraid Your Idea Is Stupid

I wrote a book and I’m afraid it’s stupid.

It’s not a book per say. It’s a novella. (What else do you call a piece of writing that’s 20K words short of novel-status?)

And wouldn’t say I’m afraid it’s stupid.

Okay, maybe I would say that.

Re’and is a fantasy story, which means it’s set in an imagined world. There are mermaids and fairies. I made up names for my characters. I blush when I explain the plot, when I speak the title aloud (pronounced “ree-and”). This is the longest piece of work I’ve ever produced and it’s lived safely on my hard drive for years. I’m just afraid my little word baby will be seen as ridiculous.

Do you ever feel like your ideas are dumb?

Surely I’m not alone.


Coming Fall 2014

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